You can’t turn on the television or read a magazine without hearing about one well-known couple or another breaking up. No one is immune to this kind of emotional upheaval, this kind of heartache that feels like you’ll never mend.

No matter who the people are, how famous or how obscure they are from the world’s eye, there are still only a few of the same exact reasons everyone breaks up. The trick is to realize that your situation, while it might cause you to sit in abject misery and feel numb for days or weeks or even months is not unique.

You aren’t going through the fallout of a breakup as the only person in the world to do so. With the same breath, you’re not the only person who wants to get back together with your ex. Others have wanted that and succeeded. You can too.

When relationships begin, we have stars in our eyes and hope in our hearts. We imagine that magic, that feeling that the possibilities are endless. The reality is that the number one reason most couples break up is infidelity. Cheating happens – even to famous couples.

The reasons cheating happens are multi-layered. The second reason relationships break up is involvement from other family members who don’t like your romantic choice or their family didn’t like their choice of a partner.

The third top reason for breakups is not being compatible sexually. Sex plays an important role in a romantic relationship and is one of the top causes of stress according to counselors. The fourth reason for breakups is constant unhappiness. Always complaining about something. Nagging or harping on issues instead of talking about them.

The fifth reason for most relationship breakups is failure to spend enough time together for the relationship to thrive. The sixth reason is inattention to physical attributes – sloppiness in personal hygiene.

The seventh reason is being disrespectful. The eighth reason for breakups is any kind of abuse and the ninth reason is distance. Most people find it too difficult to put the effort in to maintain long distance relationships.

The reason your breakup occurred may or may not be on that list, but whatever the problem that caused yours to break up, there is a cure. Why did your relationship end? Ask yourself that and be honest with the answer. Was it due to cheating? That’s one of the toughest issues to handle, but not impossible. You have to let go of what was and accept what is if you were cheated on.

If family members are a problem, you may have to do what I did. Tell them lovingly to mind their own business. Sexual issues can be worked on as well. There is too much information available for you to let that be a roadblock. If you broke up because of constant unhappiness, realize that no one is responsible for your happiness and you’re not responsible for theirs. It’s a choice.

You have to spend time together as a couple. People tend to make time for what’s important. If you’ve been too busy and that’s been an issue. Find the time. If you let yourself go physically, change it.

Lose weight. Update your wardrobe. If you’ve dished out disrespect, then stop. Distance between you and your romantic partner can be worked through. Relocate if you really want them back.